• Figure running towards the light in dim woodland setting
    My Journey

    What is your Shadow Self?

    Carl Jung stated the Shadow Self to be the unknown dark side of the personality. According to Jung, the Shadow, in being instinctive and irrational, is prone to psychological projection, in which a perceived personal inferiority is recognised as a perceived moral deficiency in someone else. Jung writes that if these projections remain hidden, “The projection-making factor (the Shadow archetype) then has a free hand and can realise its object – if it has one – or bring about some other situation characteristic of its power.” These projections insulate and harm individuals by acting as a constantly thickening veil of illusion between the ego and the real world. I had…

  • Dreamer
    My Journey,  App Reviews

    What is Your Real Personality Type (According to Social Media)?

    Personality Types & Magic Sauce I have just finished reading the book Platform by Cynthia Johnson which I found excellent. It’s not a book about personality types but addresses this topic early on because your social media profiles tell a lot more about you than you might expect. This post looks at one in-depth tool called Apply Magic Sauce (from Cambridge University) and how you can use it to analyse your own social media profiles across Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and your blogs. I discuss my personal findings below to demonstrate how the tool is spookily accurate in most respects. You can then take the insights and use them to adjust…

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    My Journey,  Health

    A Stroke of Luck? 9 Keys to Surviving a Hemorrhagic Stroke

    On Wednesday 15 January 2020 I suffered a minor hemorrhagic stroke in the afternoon. It had shown itself earlier at work and, thinking about how I felt over the preceding month, had been trying to warn me of its arrival. It was a huge shock and it made me realise just how fragile life is and that my priorities were way off from where they should be, despite all the learning I had taken in from self-help books about creating a balanced life and despite what I said was important yet clearly did not honour my words. The Wrong Life I said health was my priority, but in reality, I…

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    My Journey,  Health

    Sugar – A Bittersweet Love Affair

    I stopped eating cakes and sweets three weeks ago; mid-December and the Christmas festival of gluttony soon to be upon us. I decided that all the sugar in the little sweets I eat in my restaurant could not be a good thing, especially since my daily intake was slowly increasing. My body still has withdrawal symptoms and cravings for a sugary hit, but I won’t give in, even throughout the Christmas period. I did have a slice of cake the other day because it was one of the team’s birthdays. I think it’s OK to celebrate when it’s a collective occasion – like a birthday – but you should follow…

  • Man Walking in the Woods
    My Journey,  Health

    Redefining Health – Holistically

    What do you think of when somebody asks how your health is? Or how your parent’s health is? In my experience, we gravitate towards the physical most of the time (even though the dictionary defines it more holistically). We think of mobility and fitness, being active as opposed to sedentary. We may extend this to our mental state – though this is often only considered when there is a predisposition towards a condition such as dementia. Even my earlier posts talked about “getting fit” from a purely physical standpoint. However, our true health is much more holistic and has four aspects to it. When each of these is cared for,…

  • This is my Happy Place
    My Journey

    Finding Authenticity – On Becoming Human One Year On

    In late 2018, I decided I needed to learn more about business as I was running a small restaurant group and needed to fill in a few gaps in my skillset. I also felt overwhelmed and had experienced a series of – for me – significantly stressful events in the course of the business operation. I was working 80+ hours a week with no days off (and have done for 5 years now). I was not in my happy place but resigned myself to the fact that it was “just business” and that’s what being an entrepreneur was all about. But something gnawed at my soul. I saw other entrepreneurs…

  • My Journey

    Finding my Authenticity: Breaking My Chains

    When I first had the idea for this blog I settled on the title “The Boy Who Forgot To Live” for the site. This is my journey from being a guy who was not happy with his situation in life – despite many on the outside thinking I “had it all” – to one where I would be very happy. That is still very true of the journey I am on and how I feel, though I changed the name just before launch to “Finding Authenticity” as this seemed more relevant and succinct for what I was doing and what so many others also seem to be seeking. I am…

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    My Journey

    Emotions are like clothes: We can choose the ones we wear.

    I’ve been doing a lot of internal work this year, to understand myself at a deep level; my drives, my limiting beliefs, my conditioned framework, or as @Vishen says, the #Brules. You may have seen some of my book reviews on Twitter (or on this site) so have an idea of the breadth of material I have been absorbing. One thing I have understood is that our reaction to external events is our choice. I exclude grief here as it’s hard to shut out the loss of a loved one, though even that’s not impossible. But that’s a topic for another day. A Moment of Peace There is a moment…

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    My Journey

    Unfitness: There and Back Again

    Since I posted My Fitness Journey & the Century Push Quest back in November last year, I have been out of action for much of December through various bugs and a couple of bouts of food poisoning. That’s also why there have been gaps in blog postings. Fortunately, these things are only short-lived in relative terms, and I am getting back to “normal” after a couple of weeks of a diet that consisted mostly of bananas, rice, potatoes and bread (aka the BRAT diet). Not exactly “fit fuel” but it kept me stable. It is true that carbs give you energy. But if you’re not active and you eat the…

  • My Journey

    Slow Dance – An Ode to Life

    I received this by email the other day. It was written by a terminally ill teenage girl in a New York Hospital who was suffering from cancer. Over the past couple of years I have met a lot of people who have been affected by cancer, as well as an ...