• Dreamer
    App Reviews,  Character

    What is Your Real Personality Type (According to Social Media)?

    Personality Types & Magic Sauce I have just finished reading the book Platform by Cynthia Johnson which I found excellent. It’s not a book about personality types but addresses this topic early on because your social media profiles tell a lot more about you than you might expect. This post looks at one in-depth tool called Apply Magic Sauce (from Cambridge University) and how you can use it to analyse your own social media profiles across Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and your blogs. I discuss my personal findings below to demonstrate how the tool is spookily accurate in most respects. You can then take the insights and use them to adjust…

  • Make Memories all over the World
    Book Reviews,  Character,  Life Vision

    The Motivation Manifesto: 9 Declarations to Claim Your Personal Power

    Narrated by Brendon, this audiobook is akin to having a pep-talk from the author himself. He encourages you to rise above mediocrity and reclaim your personal power and strive to make a difference in the world, at whatever level this means for you. He covers similar ground to other books of this ilk, so you will find some of it familiar territory if you read in this genre, but his choice of language and delivery in the audiobook is inspiring and a very deliberate ‘manifesto’ in the real sense that you can use as the template for your amazing life. Having listened to it twice now (and I will again…

  • This is my Happy Place
    Emotional Life,  Character,  Quality of Life

    Finding Authenticity – On Becoming Human One Year On

    In late 2018, I decided I needed to learn more about business as I was running a small restaurant group and needed to fill in a few gaps in my skillset. I also felt overwhelmed and had experienced a series of – for me – significantly stressful events in the course of the business operation. I was working 80+ hours a week with no days off (and have done for 5 years now). I was not in my happy place but resigned myself to the fact that it was “just business” and that’s what being an entrepreneur was all about. But something gnawed at my soul. I saw other entrepreneurs…

  • Am I Good Enough
    App Reviews,  Character,  Journaling

    Journaling – The Stoic Method & App

    I downloaded Stoic from the app store this week to try a different approach to journaling and this review is based on the 7-day trial period before the paywall kicked in. You’ll see from my other post (The Power of the Daily Journal) that I believe journaling is very important to leading a successful life (however you define it), but the challenge is that it can be very open-ended. I use Day One, but the current version does not prompt you with questions like the old Day One Classic used to. You can define your own prompts, but having something come at you unexpectedly makes you think outside the box…

  • Emotional Life,  Character,  Quality of Life

    Finding my Authenticity: Breaking My Chains

    When I first had the idea for this blog I settled on the title “The Boy Who Forgot To Live” for the site. This is my journey from being a guy who was not happy with his situation in life – despite many on the outside thinking I “had it all” – to one where I would be very happy. That is still very true of the journey I am on and how I feel, though I changed the name just before launch to “Finding Authenticity” as this seemed more relevant and succinct for what I was doing and what so many others also seem to be seeking. I am…

  • Don Miguel Ruiz
    Book Reviews,  Character

    The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Growth

    Simply outstanding. The simplicity and depth of the wisdom of the four agreements are transformational. Be Impeccable With Your Word, Don’t Take Anything Personally, Don’t Make Assumptions, and Always Do Your Best. don Miguel Ruiz exposes the layers of fog we are conditioned by (domesticated with) and cuts through this fog with the four foundational agreements above which surpass all others. He explains how and why we have our manyfold beliefs and thoughts (our own personal agreements), and how we choose to accept the agreements of others through early life. This, again, echoes many of the personal development books of today which look at our own failings. Some look at…

  • Courses,  Emotional Life,  Character

    Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: Techniques for Retraining Your Brain

    Self-Help for Critical Thinkers Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a thoroughly enjoyable course for the critical thinker who would like to improve their quality of life. Professor Satterfield’s presentation is warm and engaging as he deftly blends history, science, inspirational stories, and case studies in each lecture. As you progress through the course, you will: gain a comprehensive understanding of the complex relationship between cognitions (thoughts), emotions (feelings), and behaviour; see how a very empirical process can be applied to very emotional situations; find success through analyzing situations in which you failed to achieve your goals; ramp up your positive emotions and moderate the negative ones; and understand the full scope of…

  • Man biting red rose in closeup shot
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Character

    No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life

    Well, based on the evidence presented in this book, I have been a Nice Guy for much of my adult life. Not everything applies, but enough to tip the scales in favour of appreciating this work and the strategies needed to overcome the Nice Guy Syndrome which is founded in early life experiences. Interestingly, some of the personal development books I have been reading, which are centred more on performance and business skills, have also suggested that a lot of our limiting beliefs around success and money are conditioned into us in our early lives through the people around us whose main goal is to protect us. These protection mechanisms…

  • Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Character

    Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds

    Another personal development book … but this one comes at you like a freight train in the night (as a Navy Seal would do, I guess). It’s uncomfortable to listen to in places as Goggins goes into excruciating details of how he basically pushed himself beyond his limits to overcome his limitations and crush his goals. It’s a fascinating life story, and the 10 challenges laid out in the book help steer you through your own awakening, identify your own limitations and crush your own life goals. Your goals don’t have to be physical, and they can be small or large, but the process works. The more you read personal…

  • Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Character

    Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One

    This is the book that bridges the gap between the spiritual practices in books like The Secret, Feeling Is The Secret 1944, The Universe Has Your Back: Transform Fear to Faith, et al, and the more practical approaches in books like High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way via psychology, meditation and proven principles. Having read these related books and a number of other books on the spectrum from spiritual to scientific, including others that delve into specific aspects of spirit, psyche, mind, habits and psychology, this book is a like a key that joins both the spiritual and physical worlds and helps open a gateway to improving yourself. As a (pseudo) scientist,…