• Feeling Alive
    Book Reviews,  Intellectual Life,  Emotional Life,  Character

    The Charge

    I took Brendon’s course called The 10 Human Drives earlier this year, which is based on this book. The course runs for 90 minutes and is an excellent overview of the 10 human drives. The book takes each one and delves deeper into the research and background with additional case studies from Brendon’s own clients about how he identified these charges lacking within them and helped them turn it around and lead a more transformed and fulfilling life. According to Brendon, we live our lives in one of three states: Caged: We are trapped in the past or in the expectations of others. Those who live caged lives feel tethered to…

  • Heart painted on lots of hands held together
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Love Life,  Social Life

    Empath Awakening: How to Stop Absorbing Pain, Stress, and Negative Energy from Others and Start Healing

    Another easily accessible read from Kara Lawrence which has the usual blend of helpful checklists as well as explorations of the key concepts of being empathetic. I like that Kara does not simply lay out what an empath is and how they function, but she contrasts this with the opposite personality types of ‘energy vampires’ which come in all shapes and sizes and also goes further to provide a shopping list of techniques you (the empath) can use to protect yourself from said ‘vampires’ and other external factors which can deplete your gifts. Here is an overview of the chapters in the book: Chapter One: Are you empathetic? Understanding these…

  • Man, Water, Moon, Sunset
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Love Life,  Social Life

    Toxic Magnetism: How & Why Empaths Attract Narcissists

    This book grew on me the second time through. While it doesn’t go deep into aspects of empath or narcissism, it does provide an eloquent contrast between the two personality styles and why they attract each other. The frequent checklists to help you identify where you are and how you may be being affected are useful tools to help you gain clarity and regain inner strength to rise once more and move forward. The book takes you through the stages of a narcissist/empath relationship, including the steps you may have to take to get out. There is no magic bullet but, based on other books I have read on this…

  • Running Lanes 1-11
    Courses,  Intellectual Life,  Emotional Life,  Character

    The 10 Human Drives

    I have read a number of Brendon Burchard’s books (Motivation Manifesto, High Performance Habits and Life’s Golden Ticket), have taken his Transformation Week and am studying his Productivity Masterclass also. As many of you will know from the contents of this site, personal improvement is something I take seriously and am always ready to look at new and related materials. So, when an invite came into my inbox to look at unreleased footage of Brendon discussing the 10 Human Drives, I accepted. The course is delivered via growth.com using the Kajabi platform, but you cannot access it unless you’re part of Brendon’s HPX world in some form. You have to…

  • Two ladies happy on a beach
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Love Life,  Social Life

    You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse: The #1 System for Recovering from Toxic Relationships

    Having read two other books on narcissism (Narcissist: A Complete Guide to Dealing with a Range of Narcissistic Personalities and The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse) I discovered Melania Tonia Evans on YouTube as I was continuing my research into this topic. Melania goes further in this book discussing the various forms of narcissism but takes a different view about how to heal. While Melania recognises that Narcissistic Personality Disorder is very real and very harmful, she puts forward a powerful healing methodology that is based on healing your own wounds and not laying all the blame at the feet…

  • Love Shouldn't Hurt
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Love Life,  Social Life

    Narcissistic Abuse

    Having read two other books on the topic, this book did not add very much to what I had already read – hence the rating. It is presented in a series of short chapters which very succinctly outline the subject of the chapter and then summarise what you just read. As an audiobook, I found this format repetitive as it sounded like the narrator read the chapter title, then elaborated on it – which in many cases did not feel much longer than the title, then summarised with a rephrasing of the title. It felt more like a list of things and needed more depth for me. Nevertheless, a good…

  • This is my Happy Place
    Emotional Life,  Character,  Quality of Life

    Finding Authenticity – On Becoming Human One Year On

    In late 2018, I decided I needed to learn more about business as I was running a small restaurant group and needed to fill in a few gaps in my skillset. I also felt overwhelmed and had experienced a series of – for me – significantly stressful events in the course of the business operation. I was working 80+ hours a week with no days off (and have done for 5 years now). I was not in my happy place but resigned myself to the fact that it was “just business” and that’s what being an entrepreneur was all about. But something gnawed at my soul. I saw other entrepreneurs…

  • Dog in the arms of her owner
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Spiritual Life

    The Safest Place Possible: A Guide to Healing and Transformation

    This is a book that puts you ahead of the BS that boils around you every day and encourages you to find your own Safest Place. Covering most of life’s scenarios with insight from the author’s own life, as well as others, this book places your wellbeing at the centre-stage of your life. If you have been searching for answers and feel your life disconnected in some way, or have been unhappy and felt you have been giving too much of your own power or joy away, read this book and embrace its wisdom. My own path led me to this book over the last year and the spiritual/personal lessons…

  • Fake Smile. Smudged Mascara.
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Love Life,  Social Life

    The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse

    Although this book looks specifically at covert narcissism (there are multiple types of Narcissistic Personality Disorder), Debbie covers enough ground to discuss other aspects of other narcissistic styles. The book provides a greater depth of understanding and insight into the condition overall as well as the often unseen trauma it can cause to the victims, and how said recipients of the abuse can face up to the narcissist and heal after they go no contact. Debbie uses very affirmative language which helps you understand that she is somebody with great knowledge of this condition, genuinely wants the best for you and helps you believe in yourself again. She speaks from…

  • Don't Give Up. You Matter.
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Love Life,  Social Life

    Narcissist: A Complete Guide to Dealing with a Range of Narcissistic Personalities

    A very short book which reads more like a checklist. Good advice within its pages which provides both an insight into the condition with some actionable points. However, I found it a little light to listen to as an audiobook as each chapter title was mostly followed with a brief paragraph which didn’t seem to say much more than the chapter title. However, in print I’m sure this is a great reference tool. As an entry point to understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder, this is a good place to start.