• Fake Smile. Smudged Mascara.
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Love Life,  Social Life

    The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse

    Although this book looks specifically at covert narcissism (there are multiple types of Narcissistic Personality Disorder), Debbie covers enough ground to discuss other aspects of other narcissistic styles. The book provides a greater depth of understanding and insight into the condition overall as well as the often unseen trauma it can cause to the victims, and how said recipients of the abuse can face up to the narcissist and heal after they go no contact. Debbie uses very affirmative language which helps you understand that she is somebody with great knowledge of this condition, genuinely wants the best for you and helps you believe in yourself again. She speaks from…

  • Don't Give Up. You Matter.
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Love Life,  Social Life

    Narcissist: A Complete Guide to Dealing with a Range of Narcissistic Personalities

    A very short book which reads more like a checklist. Good advice within its pages which provides both an insight into the condition with some actionable points. However, I found it a little light to listen to as an audiobook as each chapter title was mostly followed with a brief paragraph which didn’t seem to say much more than the chapter title. However, in print I’m sure this is a great reference tool. As an entry point to understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder, this is a good place to start.

  • Emotional Life,  Character,  Quality of Life

    Finding my Authenticity: Breaking My Chains

    When I first had the idea for this blog I settled on the title “The Boy Who Forgot To Live” for the site. This is my journey from being a guy who was not happy with his situation in life – despite many on the outside thinking I “had it all” – to one where I would be very happy. That is still very true of the journey I am on and how I feel, though I changed the name just before launch to “Finding Authenticity” as this seemed more relevant and succinct for what I was doing and what so many others also seem to be seeking. I am…

  • Courses,  Emotional Life,  Character

    Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: Techniques for Retraining Your Brain

    Self-Help for Critical Thinkers Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a thoroughly enjoyable course for the critical thinker who would like to improve their quality of life. Professor Satterfield’s presentation is warm and engaging as he deftly blends history, science, inspirational stories, and case studies in each lecture. As you progress through the course, you will: gain a comprehensive understanding of the complex relationship between cognitions (thoughts), emotions (feelings), and behaviour; see how a very empirical process can be applied to very emotional situations; find success through analyzing situations in which you failed to achieve your goals; ramp up your positive emotions and moderate the negative ones; and understand the full scope of…

  • Man shouting into a telephone
    Emotional Life

    Emotions are like clothes: We can choose the ones we wear.

    If you are pained by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your own judgement of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgement now. Marcus Aurelius, Meditations I’ve been doing a lot of internal work this year, to understand myself at a deep level; my drives, my limiting beliefs, my conditioned framework, or as @Vishen says, the #Brules. You may have seen some of my book reviews on Twitter (or on this site) so have an idea of the breadth of material I have been absorbing. One thing I have understood is that our reaction to external events is our choice. I…

  • Boy standing on ladder reaching for the clouds
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life

    Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child

    The audiocassette has been transferred to Audible and presents an enlightening deep-dive into our early years from birth to early school to help us try to figure out where our negative conditioning comes from. This could be around money, love, business, etc, but these formational beliefs we pick up and become conditioned by often limit our potential, even if some of them were “given” to us out of love. The audio mixes presentation and insight with meditation (regression) exercises to help you figure out for yourself where some of your inner demons come from. If you have identified that you may not have had the ideal framework growing up (which…

  • Man biting red rose in closeup shot
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Character

    No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life

    Well, based on the evidence presented in this book, I have been a Nice Guy for much of my adult life. Not everything applies, but enough to tip the scales in favour of appreciating this work and the strategies needed to overcome the Nice Guy Syndrome which is founded in early life experiences. Interestingly, some of the personal development books I have been reading, which are centred more on performance and business skills, have also suggested that a lot of our limiting beliefs around success and money are conditioned into us in our early lives through the people around us whose main goal is to protect us. These protection mechanisms…

  • Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Character

    Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds

    Another personal development book … but this one comes at you like a freight train in the night (as a Navy Seal would do, I guess). It’s uncomfortable to listen to in places as Goggins goes into excruciating details of how he basically pushed himself beyond his limits to overcome his limitations and crush his goals. It’s a fascinating life story, and the 10 challenges laid out in the book help steer you through your own awakening, identify your own limitations and crush your own life goals. Your goals don’t have to be physical, and they can be small or large, but the process works. The more you read personal…

  • Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Character

    Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One

    This is the book that bridges the gap between the spiritual practices in books like The Secret, Feeling Is The Secret 1944, The Universe Has Your Back: Transform Fear to Faith, et al, and the more practical approaches in books like High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way via psychology, meditation and proven principles. Having read these related books and a number of other books on the spectrum from spiritual to scientific, including others that delve into specific aspects of spirit, psyche, mind, habits and psychology, this book is a like a key that joins both the spiritual and physical worlds and helps open a gateway to improving yourself. As a (pseudo) scientist,…

  • Gabrielle Bernstein
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Spiritual Life

    The Universe Has Your Back: Transform Fear to Faith

    I first listened to this audiobook two years ago, almost to the day. Having just finished Gabby’s Judgement Detox: Release the Beliefs That Hold You Back from Living a Better Life, I thought it time to re-read this earlier work and see if my view had changed. Having read numerous books on personal development, spirituality, magic, ekstasis, et al, in the interim I found this book more accessible and following similar lines with sound meditative practices built in to help you open up to the soul of the universe (i.e. your own soul, as you’ll discover from the many other metaphysical and development books). This helps you get into your flow, or…