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Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic Abuse: How to Understand Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome and Recovery from Emotional Abuse. A Guide to Escaping Narcissism in Relationships and Handling the Narcissists in Your Family Book Cover
Narcissistic Abuse: How to Understand Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome and Recovery from Emotional Abuse. A Guide to Escaping Narcissism in Relationships and Handling the Narcissists in Your Family Psychology Brandon Dark Audiobook 3h 22m Audible

Do you find that the way your partner treated you in the beginning of the relationship is unrecognizable from the way your partner treats you now? Are you persistently made to feel guilty for voicing your concerns in the relationship?

For the malignant narcissist, visions of their own grandeur mixed with an over-blown sense of entitlement fueled by a shocking lack of empathy, lead to a truly twisted vision of themselves, other people, relationships, and the way the world works. As a result, their partners, siblings, children, even friends and colleagues, often experience at least some form of narcissistic abuse, which is recognized as a type of domestic violence that can lead to deep psychological issues that can be passed from one generation to the next.

In this book, we are going to look at narcissistic abuse from a variety of viewpoints, beginning with the basics of recognizing narcissism in others and ourselves by examining the attitudes and behaviours that mark the narcissist in general and differentiating between benign and malignant narcissism. We will then look at how narcissists work, where they come from, how they see the world and some of their most common tactics including gaslighting and how they use others to do their bidding. From there, we will explore narcissistic abuse syndrome and trauma bonding, how it develops, what the victim experiences, and the warning signs that indicate that you might be suffering from it.

After examining these base principles, we will get more into the dynamics of narcissism in various relationships. This begins with narcissism in family relationships and will cover childrearing with an eye toward recognizing how parents often turn their child into a narcissist, how the culture supports this kind of parenting, and how to keep it from happening. We will then see how we can recognize narcissism early on in childhood, including bullying behaviour, and steps that can be taken to set the child on a different path.

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll learn with this book:

The one and only rule to distinguish benign narcissism from narcissistic personality disorder;
How a narcissist works and what is gaslighting;
Understand the two main secrets about dealing with narcissistic parents;
How to end a relationship with a narcissist;
The 10 questions to understand if you are in love with a narcissist
And much more.

In Narcissistic Abuse, you will find a roadmap that will guide you all the way from recognizing your narcissist for what they really are to recovering your life from them.


Having read two other books on the topic, this book did not add very much to what I had already read – hence the rating. It is presented in a series of short chapters which very succinctly outline the subject of the chapter and then summarise what you just read. As an audiobook, I found this format repetitive as it sounded like the narrator read the chapter title, then elaborated on it – which in many cases did not feel much longer than the title, then summarised with a rephrasing of the title. It felt more like a list of things and needed more depth for me. Nevertheless, a good introduction and maybe a good first introduction to the topic.

We live in one of three states as Brendon Burchard says - caged, comfortable or charged - often one of the first two. But we aspire to a better life, a more charged life, one where we don’t feel trapped or stuck in a rut (yet comfortable), one where we don’t compromise and live a charged life. My purpose is to help you find your charge. I post updates about my own journey here and if you have any questions or would like any support, feel free to contact me or connect with me on any of the social networks.

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