• 100 Essays that will change the way you think
    My Approach

    Why Self-Help Books Don’t Work

    Have you ever wondered why self-help books don’t work? No matter how many you buy or listen to, or how many courses you start, they just don’t seem to deliver on what they promise. For regular visitors to this site, you’ll see I read a lot of these sorts of books. Many of them come with the “this book changed my life” quote, which helps sell the book, but may not actually deliver the same result for you. Since this is a quote from a reader, it’s not actually a claim of the book, ergo no guarantee the same will happen for you. And I would have to agree –…

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    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life

    Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child

    The audiocassette has been transferred to Audible and presents an enlightening deep-dive into our early years from birth to early school to help us try to figure out where our negative conditioning comes from. This could be around money, love, business, etc, but these formational beliefs we pick up and become conditioned by often limit our potential, even if some of them were “given” to us out of love. The audio mixes presentation and insight with meditation (regression) exercises to help you figure out for yourself where some of your inner demons come from. If you have identified that you may not have had the ideal framework growing up (which…

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    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Character

    No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life

    Well, based on the evidence presented in this book, I have been a Nice Guy for much of my adult life. Not everything applies, but enough to tip the scales in favour of appreciating this work and the strategies needed to overcome the Nice Guy Syndrome which is founded in early life experiences. Interestingly, some of the personal development books I have been reading, which are centred more on performance and business skills, have also suggested that a lot of our limiting beliefs around success and money are conditioned into us in our early lives through the people around us whose main goal is to protect us. These protection mechanisms…

  • Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Character

    Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One

    This is the book that bridges the gap between the spiritual practices in books like The Secret, Feeling Is The Secret 1944, The Universe Has Your Back: Transform Fear to Faith, et al, and the more practical approaches in books like High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way via psychology, meditation and proven principles. Having read these related books and a number of other books on the spectrum from spiritual to scientific, including others that delve into specific aspects of spirit, psyche, mind, habits and psychology, this book is a like a key that joins both the spiritual and physical worlds and helps open a gateway to improving yourself. As a (pseudo) scientist,…