• Banana
    Health & Fitness

    Avoiding Bananas? Stop! Here are 5 Surprising Reasons why you should Eat them.

    I have always liked bananas since I was very young, but didn’t really eat fruit for many years. After my doctor said I needed to eat more fruit more regularly I decided to go back to what I remembered as a child. I remembered they were soft and easy on the stomach, and I remembered they had lots of potassium, but that was about it. I added a healthy slice of research after my stroke so I better understood the foods I was eating and looked for more details that weren’t around in my youth. I stumbled across Anthon Williams’ Life-Changing Foods which says the following about the not-so-humble banana.…

  • Care Less
    Health & Fitness

    Why do so many people feel cut off from the emotions of caring?

    I have been reading The Charge by Brendon Burchard this week and if there was ever a person who goes deep and knows about the psychological and emotional make-up of people, I would rank him at the top of the class. You may have noticed I have an interest in this also, especially from an emotional trauma point of view see (Narcissism: A Solar Metaphor) and the science-geek in me always wants to understand why. A lot of the resources I have read and listened to recently talk about the effect of emotional trauma and that there are many studies which show this result to be true, that much of…

  • Man Walking in the Woods
    Health & Fitness

    Redefining Health – Holistically

    What do you think of when somebody asks how your health is? Or how your parent’s health is? In my experience, we gravitate towards the physical most of the time (even though the dictionary defines it more holistically). We think of mobility and fitness, being active as opposed to sedentary. We may extend this to our mental state – though this is often only considered when there is a predisposition towards a condition such as dementia. Even my earlier posts talked about “getting fit” from a purely physical standpoint. However, our true health is much more holistic and has four aspects to it. When each of these is cared for,…

  • Man kissing woman while sitting on railings during night
    Book Reviews,  Love Life

    The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

    This book has been in print for 25 years, and the audio version for a good percentage of it. It has become an international phenomenon and has spawned numerous variations for specific sub-sets of people and now boasts an app with a quiz which you can share with your partner to find the best ways to communicate in your languages of love. This is a juggernaut of a book. I am not a psychologist and I respect the work that Gary Chapman has put in to distil years of clinical notes down into a pattern which emphasises 5 different ways we communicate love to each other and explains how we…

  • Body of Water with Depth Measure
    My Approach

    Struggling with Negative Emotions? There is a Path to Joy

    Do you feel you suffer from depression, jealousy, anger, hatred, overwhelm, or even just boredom? Maybe not all the time, but from time to time? We all do. It’s normal. But you can raise your spirits and get out of the doldrums. Here’s how. Abraham-Hicks Emotional Scale I have been reading Super Attractor by Gabrielle Bernstein and chapter four discussed the Abraham-Hicks Emotional Guidance Scale in depth. It is an elegant tool which maps out a path from depression at the lowest end of the scale to joy at the highest end. Here is that scale: Joy / Appreciation / Empowered / Freedom / Love Passion Enthusiasm / Eagerness /…

  • Rewrite the Past
    My Approach,  Journaling

    Rewriting Your Past – A Tool to Understand Yourself

    In her new book, Everything is Figureoutable, Marie Forleo presents a free writing exercise for 7 days which helps you figure out what you want in life. It’s a great and valuable exercise when you’re really not sure where you want to go, and I suggest you pick up a copy of the book and check it out (it’s at the end of Chapter 6). Free Writing vs Rewriting However, if you’re feeling stuck and think you might have some unconscious self-limiting beliefs which are holding you back, all the free writing in the world won’t help you overcome these blocks and let you hit the target that ignites your…

  • Emotional Life,  Character,  Quality of Life

    Finding my Authenticity: Breaking My Chains

    When I first had the idea for this blog I settled on the title “The Boy Who Forgot To Live” for the site. This is my journey from being a guy who was not happy with his situation in life – despite many on the outside thinking I “had it all” – to one where I would be very happy. That is still very true of the journey I am on and how I feel, though I changed the name just before launch to “Finding Authenticity” as this seemed more relevant and succinct for what I was doing and what so many others also seem to be seeking. I am…

  • Man shouting into a telephone
    Emotional Life

    Emotions are like clothes: We can choose the ones we wear.

    If you are pained by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your own judgement of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgement now. Marcus Aurelius, Meditations I’ve been doing a lot of internal work this year, to understand myself at a deep level; my drives, my limiting beliefs, my conditioned framework, or as @Vishen says, the #Brules. You may have seen some of my book reviews on Twitter (or on this site) so have an idea of the breadth of material I have been absorbing. One thing I have understood is that our reaction to external events is our choice. I…

  • Penny Power OBE
    Book Reviews,  Career

    Business is Personal

    I have known of Penny since the days when Ecademy was formed but never really knew her story, until now. Her book takes you through this journey, her (ad)ventures with Ecademy et al, and provides a heartfelt insight into the emotional journey many entrepreneurs face. You feel a connection to both Penny’s story as well as your own and realise you aren’t as ‘alone’ as you may feel as a business owner and that there are resources out there to help you on this journey. Penny also mentions several of these in the book, as well as links to them on her website. The book does not provide any forensic…