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    Courses

    How to Become Extraordinary by Design

    I seem to be immersed in the Mindvalley approach to living at the moment. I am studying an old Extraordinary by Design course which, I think, was supplemental material from when I bought the Code of the Extraordinary Mind when it was first released. It has taken me some time to get around to it! The course is broken into 12 modules, each reflecting the 12 areas of life we should all seek to improve ourselves in, set goals in, and seek balance in. To live a fulfilling life we should seek to balance the 12 areas and, by doing so, often find more opportunities arise and more abundance manifests…

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    The 10 Human Drives

    I have read a number of Brendon Burchard’s books (Motivation Manifesto, High Performance Habits and Life’s Golden Ticket), have taken his Transformation Week and am studying his Productivity Masterclass also. As many of you will know from the contents of this site, personal improvement is something I take seriously and am always ready to look at new and related materials. So, when an invite came into my inbox to look at unreleased footage of Brendon discussing the 10 Human Drives, I accepted. The course is delivered via growth.com using the Kajabi platform, but you cannot access it unless you’re part of Brendon’s HPX world in some form. You have to…

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    Book Reviews

    The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

    This book has been in print for 25 years, and the audio version for a good percentage of it. It has become an international phenomenon and has spawned numerous variations for specific sub-sets of people and now boasts an app with a quiz which you can share with your partner to find the best ways to communicate in your languages of love. This is a juggernaut of a book. I am not a psychologist and I respect the work that Gary Chapman has put in to distil years of clinical notes down into a pattern which emphasises 5 different ways we communicate love to each other and explains how we…

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    My Approach

    Self-Help Books – Further Thoughts on the Journey

    A short while ago I wrote a post titled Why Self-Help Books Don’t Work. I have been reflecting on this and found an alternative angle to better understand it. The human experience is complex. We each have different life events and each affects us individually. This map of experience is often uncharted and key points along the timeline have a significant impact on us. These can be positive or negative and I discuss the concept of reviewing your life story further in Finding My Authenticity: Breaking My Chains. I have always had an interest in astronomy, even from a young age at school, and went on to work on cosmology…

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    My Approach

    The Power of the Daily Journal

    Do you journal daily? Journalling is all the rage now. There are numerous apps that range from the fluffy to the overly analytical. I have tried four different apps to date – Day One, Stoic (review here), Moodnotes and Jour – and bought three different physical methodologies – High-Performance Planner, Best Self Journal and a Blank Notebook. Some focus on specific aspects of journaling – such as gratitude – while others try to cover the full spectrum. Let’s be clear from the outset that a journal is not a diary, not a summary of what you did and who you did it with (though this can feature), but a much…

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    My Approach

    Rewriting Your Past – A Tool to Understand Yourself

    In her new book, Everything is Figureoutable, Marie Forleo presents a free writing exercise for 7 days which helps you figure out what you want in life. It’s a great and valuable exercise when you’re really not sure where you want to go, and I suggest you pick up a copy of the book and check it out (it’s at the end of Chapter 6). Free Writing vs Rewriting However, if you’re feeling stuck and think you might have some unconscious self-limiting beliefs which are holding you back, all the free writing in the world won’t help you overcome these blocks and let you hit the target that ignites your…

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    Finding my Authenticity: Breaking My Chains

    When I first had the idea for this blog I settled on the title “The Boy Who Forgot To Live” for the site. This is my journey from being a guy who was not happy with his situation in life – despite many on the outside thinking I “had it all” – to one where I would be very happy. That is still very true of the journey I am on and how I feel, though I changed the name just before launch to “Finding Authenticity” as this seemed more relevant and succinct for what I was doing and what so many others also seem to be seeking. I am…

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    Book Reviews

    Think & Grow Rich

    In this video summary from the 2000 Books channel on YouTube, Mani Vaya presents a great overview and distillation of the book. The main points are presented succinctly and with enough depth to understand the key elements that yield success – and this is not just financial, but also personal. Think & Grow Rich is one of the foundation books in this genre that has been recommended over and over again, and much of what is presented today by the many modern coaches, speakers and trainers are essentially different versions of the contents of this book with their own angles and nuances. This video summary talks about how we can…

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    My Approach

    Why Self-Help Books Don’t Work

    Have you ever wondered why self-help books don’t work? No matter how many you buy or listen to, or how many courses you start, they just don’t seem to deliver on what they promise. For regular visitors to this site, you’ll see I read a lot of these sorts of books. Many of them come with the “this book changed my life” quote, which helps sell the book, but may not actually deliver the same result for you. Since this is a quote from a reader, it’s not actually a claim of the book, ergo no guarantee the same will happen for you. And I would have to agree –…

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    My Journey

    Emotions are like clothes: We can choose the ones we wear.

    I’ve been doing a lot of internal work this year, to understand myself at a deep level; my drives, my limiting beliefs, my conditioned framework, or as @Vishen says, the #Brules. You may have seen some of my book reviews on Twitter (or on this site) so have an idea of the breadth of material I have been absorbing. One thing I have understood is that our reaction to external events is our choice. I exclude grief here as it’s hard to shut out the loss of a loved one, though even that’s not impossible. But that’s a topic for another day. A Moment of Peace There is a moment…