• Man jumping over a ravine
    Life Hacks

    Fear. What is it good for? Confidence

    Over the course of February I spent some time studying confidence in more depth, and its bedfellow, fear. I thought I would share a few key takeaways with you. Confidence is Earned You don’t have or require confidence before you do something. You earn it after you have done the thing. The principle here is that confidence is like a “charge” you build up over time by doing more of the things that are just outside of your comfort zone. Everything that is inside your comfort zone is easy and not challenging, so you probably don’t feel like you need the confidence to do these things. They are automatic. However,…

  • Man Meditating Outdoors
    Health & Fitness,  Emotional Life,  Inspiration,  Spiritual Life

    Meditation Made Easy

    In this video, Mingyur Rinpoche explains the essence of meditation and describes some common misunderstandings about practising meditation. He also shares some tips for bringing meditation into our day-to-day lives. From my own learning about meditation and mindfulness since my initial forays with meditation 30+ years ago, these are 2 key essences of meditation: We are not our thoughts. We are the observer of our thoughts. Meditation is not about achieving the absence of thought, but remaining aware and centred while the thoughts ebb and flow around us. Over time, the thoughts will learn they don’t have your undivided attention and will recede. We will feel greater serenity and greater…

  • Singing Bowls & a Rain Stick
    Health & Fitness

    Can Sound Heal the Body?

    The Mystery of Sound In my teens, I explored the mysteries through the study of different belief systems ranging from shamanism to Buddhism. I experienced various esoteric practices which are now finding their way into the mainstream. These included Tibetan Overtone Chanting and Singing Bowls. Sound has always been important to me; everything from melodies and key changes in music in general through to more metaphysical experiences with New Age music, Gregorian Chant and the aforementioned Overtone Chanting and Singing Bowls. Headphones are great for experiencing the technical intricacies of modern music, but there is something more primal in feeling the music on the body, especially the chants, bowls and…

  • Girl reading and thinking in nature
    Life Hacks,  Intellectual Life,  Life Vision

    Just Stop. And Think.

    I have worked for myself for almost 20 years now, and the general (b)rule has been to work, work, work because it’s all about the hustle. And if you’re not hustling you’re not doing it right. Before that, I always kept myself busy: I had my day job and then my hobbies – like dancing – and other pursuits such as running role-playing clubs, or a side gig such as web design (which actually became my first solo business). I fill moments between activities with audiobooks nowadays, time I used to fill with music. It’s become more intense and I have succumbed to workaholism and the (b)rule of being always…

  • Boat on Water
    Book Reviews,  Spiritual Life

    The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself

    This is the advanced manual to a life of abundance and joy. Incredible. It is an effective guide to unlocking the prisons we create for ourselves through inner mental constructs we make to protect our perceived fragility as directed by the ego. But by understanding exactly who we are – which is not the sum of our experiences, our mental chatter, our fears, our emotions, or any of that stuff – we can live a more expansive and vibrant life. Every chapter is poignant and enlightening and stand-out points for me were: The importance of death as a teacher of what it means to live freely. The first section on…

  • Snoozing on the Trail
    Health & Fitness

    My Fitness Journey: Running and Wellness

    My fitness journey has been stop/start for years. I know it is essential to keep fit, raise the heart rate and push the body. It keeps things working in the long-term and helps restore the balance. The body was used to labouring in ancient times – the hunter/gatherer required us to be active – and the body is designed to deliver. But in today’s sedentary times where we have “the good life” (if we’re fortunate enough) we have to bolt on exercise to our regular daily routine. And that’s when it can feel like a chore and we find excuses not to do it. And that’s OK as long as…

  • Mei-lan Maurits
    Courses,  Spiritual Life

    Meditation with Mei-lan Maurits

    Would you spend 30 minutes a day to sleep better, feel refreshed and invigorated the next day? Yes, please! Before I tel you about Mei-lan Maurits and her angelic style of meditation music, I think we should cover the bases of what meditation is (and is not) as well as some of the other benefits. What is Meditation? There is a great introduction on Headspace which states: Meditation isn’t about becoming a different person, a new person, or even a better person. It’s about training in awareness and getting a healthy sense of perspective. You’re not trying to turn off your thoughts or feelings. You’re learning to observe them without…

  • Muse 2 Meditation: Brain Sensing Headband
    App Reviews,  Spiritual Life

    Meditation with Muse 2: My Experience with EEG

    I have been meditating since my schooldays – not all the time, but often enough to have developed a good practice. My friends and I were interested in the occult, the paranormal and the esoteric and looked at numerous systems including tarot, meditation, shamanism, angels, Wicca, rune lore, Zen, scrying, ley lines, you name it. We visited a number of groups over the years, went to seminars teaching different spiritual practices and engaged in activities from guided meditation to overtone chanting to crystal workshops to earth energies and more. For me, it was an excellent foundation in what lay on the other side of science (see also my review of…

  • Emotional Life,  Character,  Quality of Life

    Finding my Authenticity: Breaking My Chains

    When I first had the idea for this blog I settled on the title “The Boy Who Forgot To Live” for the site. This is my journey from being a guy who was not happy with his situation in life – despite many on the outside thinking I “had it all” – to one where I would be very happy. That is still very true of the journey I am on and how I feel, though I changed the name just before launch to “Finding Authenticity” as this seemed more relevant and succinct for what I was doing and what so many others also seem to be seeking. I am…

  • Boy standing on ladder reaching for the clouds
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life

    Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child

    The audiocassette has been transferred to Audible and presents an enlightening deep-dive into our early years from birth to early school to help us try to figure out where our negative conditioning comes from. This could be around money, love, business, etc, but these formational beliefs we pick up and become conditioned by often limit our potential, even if some of them were “given” to us out of love. The audio mixes presentation and insight with meditation (regression) exercises to help you figure out for yourself where some of your inner demons come from. If you have identified that you may not have had the ideal framework growing up (which…