• 100 Essays that will change the way you think
    My Approach

    Why Self-Help Books Don’t Work

    Have you ever wondered why self-help books don’t work? No matter how many you buy or listen to, or how many courses you start, they just don’t seem to deliver on what they promise. For regular visitors to this site, you’ll see I read a lot of these sorts of books. Many of them come with the “this book changed my life” quote, which helps sell the book, but may not actually deliver the same result for you. Since this is a quote from a reader, it’s not actually a claim of the book, ergo no guarantee the same will happen for you. And I would have to agree –…

  • Courses,  Emotional Life,  Character

    Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: Techniques for Retraining Your Brain

    Self-Help for Critical Thinkers Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a thoroughly enjoyable course for the critical thinker who would like to improve their quality of life. Professor Satterfield’s presentation is warm and engaging as he deftly blends history, science, inspirational stories, and case studies in each lecture. As you progress through the course, you will: gain a comprehensive understanding of the complex relationship between cognitions (thoughts), emotions (feelings), and behaviour; see how a very empirical process can be applied to very emotional situations; find success through analyzing situations in which you failed to achieve your goals; ramp up your positive emotions and moderate the negative ones; and understand the full scope of…

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    Emotional Life

    Emotions are like clothes: We can choose the ones we wear.

    If you are pained by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your own judgement of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgement now. Marcus Aurelius, Meditations I’ve been doing a lot of internal work this year, to understand myself at a deep level; my drives, my limiting beliefs, my conditioned framework, or as @Vishen says, the #Brules. You may have seen some of my book reviews on Twitter (or on this site) so have an idea of the breadth of material I have been absorbing. One thing I have understood is that our reaction to external events is our choice. I…

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    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life

    Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child

    The audiocassette has been transferred to Audible and presents an enlightening deep-dive into our early years from birth to early school to help us try to figure out where our negative conditioning comes from. This could be around money, love, business, etc, but these formational beliefs we pick up and become conditioned by often limit our potential, even if some of them were “given” to us out of love. The audio mixes presentation and insight with meditation (regression) exercises to help you figure out for yourself where some of your inner demons come from. If you have identified that you may not have had the ideal framework growing up (which…

  • Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Character

    Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds

    Another personal development book … but this one comes at you like a freight train in the night (as a Navy Seal would do, I guess). It’s uncomfortable to listen to in places as Goggins goes into excruciating details of how he basically pushed himself beyond his limits to overcome his limitations and crush his goals. It’s a fascinating life story, and the 10 challenges laid out in the book help steer you through your own awakening, identify your own limitations and crush your own life goals. Your goals don’t have to be physical, and they can be small or large, but the process works. The more you read personal…

  • Book Reviews,  Spiritual Life

    Feeling is the Secret

    Written in 1944, this short, short book contains the essence of much of the popular personal development work of today proving that nothing really changes but we all need our own lens to see it through. The book’s title is succinct enough to explain the contents, but I would also recommend reading books like The Secret or some of the others I have posted reviews about that relate to manifestation, abundance, et al. At only 40 minutes, this is an easy one to add to your list and read when you have a few minutes.

  • Gabrielle Bernstein
    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Spiritual Life

    The Universe Has Your Back: Transform Fear to Faith

    I first listened to this audiobook two years ago, almost to the day. Having just finished Gabby’s Judgement Detox: Release the Beliefs That Hold You Back from Living a Better Life, I thought it time to re-read this earlier work and see if my view had changed. Having read numerous books on personal development, spirituality, magic, ekstasis, et al, in the interim I found this book more accessible and following similar lines with sound meditative practices built in to help you open up to the soul of the universe (i.e. your own soul, as you’ll discover from the many other metaphysical and development books). This helps you get into your flow, or…

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    Book Reviews,  Emotional Life,  Character

    Judgment Detox: Release the Beliefs That Hold You Back from Living A Better Life

    Tricky one this … I listened to the audiobook via Audible. The content of Gabby’s book is, as usual, excellent. The messages are succinct and actionable. However, as the book goes on there are a number of daily meditations. These are great in that they are guided, but you really need to bookmark them to be able to jump in and out later. This is a bit of a challenge to do if you are driving! The format of the book would be better restructured for the medium so that you have the text to listen to with an accompanying audio download for the guided meditations. I believe this exists…

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    Book Reviews,  Life Vision

    The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari: A Fable About Fulfilling Your Dreams and Reaching Your Destiny

    Another excellent book. The more I read books designed to help us lead a better, more fulfilled and thus successful life, the more I see the same patterns emerging. The patterns (or tenets) are at the core of 99% of all the personal development courses and underly everything that the majority of high profile (et al) trainers deliver. However, if you’re like me, you won’t get it all from a single book. You might not get it from 100 books. But, if you’re like me, reading different perspectives on the same fundamental principles helps cement the truth of those core building blocks. Each of the stories in this book (and…

  • Penny Power OBE
    Book Reviews,  Career

    Business is Personal

    I have known of Penny since the days when Ecademy was formed but never really knew her story, until now. Her book takes you through this journey, her (ad)ventures with Ecademy et al, and provides a heartfelt insight into the emotional journey many entrepreneurs face. You feel a connection to both Penny’s story as well as your own and realise you aren’t as ‘alone’ as you may feel as a business owner and that there are resources out there to help you on this journey. Penny also mentions several of these in the book, as well as links to them on her website. The book does not provide any forensic…