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    Character

    What is your Shadow Self?

    Carl Jung stated the Shadow Self to be the unknown dark side of the personality. According to Jung, the Shadow, in being instinctive and irrational, is prone to psychological projection, in which a perceived personal inferiority is recognised as a perceived moral deficiency in someone else. Jung writes that if these projections remain hidden, “The projection-making factor (the Shadow archetype) then has a free hand and can realise its object – if it has one – or bring about some other situation characteristic of its power.” These projections insulate and harm individuals by acting as a constantly thickening veil of illusion between the ego and the real world. I had…

  • What It Takes to Be Free
    Book Reviews,  Life Vision

    What It Takes to Be Free

    The book popped up as a recommendation and I had not come across Darius before taking a chance on this book. What I discovered was a succinct journey into yourself to help you achieve your own personal freedom, however you may define it. The book is in three parts: Awareness, The Price, and The Plan. The third part is the magic ingredient in this book. Awareness The first part talks about what happiness is and what it takes of ourselves to be able to set out on the road to personal freedom. Each chapter is short and to the point. The first question is simply “What is freedom?” and the…

  • Make Memories all over the World
    Book Reviews,  Character,  Life Vision

    The Motivation Manifesto: 9 Declarations to Claim Your Personal Power

    Narrated by Brendon, this audiobook is akin to having a pep-talk from the author himself. He encourages you to rise above mediocrity and reclaim your personal power and strive to make a difference in the world, at whatever level this means for you. He covers similar ground to other books of this ilk, so you will find some of it familiar territory if you read in this genre, but his choice of language and delivery in the audiobook is inspiring and a very deliberate ‘manifesto’ in the real sense that you can use as the template for your amazing life. Having listened to it twice now (and I will again…

  • Ferris Wheel
    Book Reviews,  Life Vision

    Life’s Golden Ticket – A Story About Second Chances

    I have followed the work of Brendon Burchard since the beginning of 2019 when I joined his transformation week and started learning more about myself and his high-performance methodology. I have taken a few of his courses and watched his YouTube videos, read his High-Performance Habits book and bought the planner of the same name. But none of it really stuck until I stumbled upon this parable – a fictionalized account of one man’s journey through a “theme park of life” after being implored by his dying fiancée to go and discover it for himself. So why was this book so different? It’s a story, and I like stories. I…

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    My Approach

    Self-Help Books – Further Thoughts on the Journey

    A short while ago I wrote a post titled Why Self-Help Books Don’t Work. I have been reflecting on this and found an alternative angle to better understand it. The human experience is complex. We each have different life events and each affects us individually. This map of experience is often uncharted and key points along the timeline have a significant impact on us. These can be positive or negative and I discuss the concept of reviewing your life story further in Finding My Authenticity: Breaking My Chains. I have always had an interest in astronomy, even from a young age at school, and went on to work on cosmology…

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    My Approach,  Journaling

    The Power of the Daily Journal

    Do you journal daily? Journalling is all the rage now. There are numerous apps that range from the fluffy to the overly analytical. I have tried four different apps to date – Day One, Stoic (review here), Moodnotes and Jour – and bought three different physical methodologies – High-Performance Planner, Best Self Journal and a Blank Notebook. Some focus on specific aspects of journaling – such as gratitude – while others try to cover the full spectrum. Let’s be clear from the outset that a journal is not a diary, not a summary of what you did and who you did it with (though this can feature), but a much…

  • Rewrite the Past
    My Approach,  Journaling

    Rewriting Your Past – A Tool to Understand Yourself

    In her new book, Everything is Figureoutable, Marie Forleo presents a free writing exercise for 7 days which helps you figure out what you want in life. It’s a great and valuable exercise when you’re really not sure where you want to go, and I suggest you pick up a copy of the book and check it out (it’s at the end of Chapter 6). Free Writing vs Rewriting However, if you’re feeling stuck and think you might have some unconscious self-limiting beliefs which are holding you back, all the free writing in the world won’t help you overcome these blocks and let you hit the target that ignites your…

  • Emotional Life,  Character,  Quality of Life

    Finding my Authenticity: Breaking My Chains

    When I first had the idea for this blog I settled on the title “The Boy Who Forgot To Live” for the site. This is my journey from being a guy who was not happy with his situation in life – despite many on the outside thinking I “had it all” – to one where I would be very happy. That is still very true of the journey I am on and how I feel, though I changed the name just before launch to “Finding Authenticity” as this seemed more relevant and succinct for what I was doing and what so many others also seem to be seeking. I am…

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    Book Reviews,  Life Vision

    Think & Grow Rich

    In this video summary from the 2000 Books channel on YouTube, Mani Vaya presents a great overview and distillation of the book. The main points are presented succinctly and with enough depth to understand the key elements that yield success – and this is not just financial, but also personal. Think & Grow Rich is one of the foundation books in this genre that has been recommended over and over again, and much of what is presented today by the many modern coaches, speakers and trainers are essentially different versions of the contents of this book with their own angles and nuances. This video summary talks about how we can…

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    My Approach

    Why Self-Help Books Don’t Work

    Have you ever wondered why self-help books don’t work? No matter how many you buy or listen to, or how many courses you start, they just don’t seem to deliver on what they promise. For regular visitors to this site, you’ll see I read a lot of these sorts of books. Many of them come with the “this book changed my life” quote, which helps sell the book, but may not actually deliver the same result for you. Since this is a quote from a reader, it’s not actually a claim of the book, ergo no guarantee the same will happen for you. And I would have to agree –…