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The Three Questions: How to Discover and Master the Power Within You

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The Three Questions: How to Discover and Master the Power Within You Personal Development HarperCollins Publishers Limited Audiobook 3h 41m Audible

From the author of the international bestseller, The Four Agreements comes a profound guide which grounds itself further in the tradition of Toltec wisdom, helping us find and use the hidden power within us to achieve our fullest and most authentic lives. Delving deeper into Native American practise, Don Miguel Ruiz confronts us with three simple yet utterly profound questions which are essential to explore at each stage of our lives:

Who am I?
What is real?
How do I express love?

Through these three eternal questions, Ruiz offers a practical framework to eventually lead us to our most complete and truest of selves. His transformative message provides the listener with a vehicle for overcoming stress, fear and anxiety, achieving peace of mind. This significant and empowering book reveals how our power is actually rooted in our identity, and it is only when this realisation hits that we will begin to be a benefit to ourselves and others. A fascinating exploration of spirituality and human identity, The Three Questions is essential listening for those who are in pursuit of self-knowledge, understanding and acceptance.


I didn’t get into this book as much as I did The Four Agreements, partly because some of it has been covered in that book (as well as others I have read from Don Miguel Ruiz including The Fifth Agreement and The Five Levels of Attachment) and maybe because I thought the narrator did not have the gravitas to make the book sound as authentic as the previous works I mentioned. However, once we get into the three questions themselves, the use of analogies to relate how our psyche interacts with the world and so illuminates the answers to the questions is very interesting.

There were many insights within the pages and I would recommend to read it as it feels a little lighter than the previous works, yet still insightful and accessible. Some of the key takeaways for me were:

  • To respect someone’s opinion is an act of love. You can still respect somebody without needing to like them. And to raise above any dislike and show respect is the mark of a better human.
  • Respect should be given automatically because a human is a magical being of life and light and, therefore, respect is not something that is conditional or required to be earned. It should be given automatically. This reminded me of what a coach said at a seminar a few years ago – Assume Goodwill, Challenge Assumptions. The essence of this is to show goodwill (or respect) automatically, but if this is not reciprocated you can withdraw said goodwill with respect and walk away.
  • Respect should also be given to yourself, not just others. Do not blame yourself, respect yourself. Don’t slack off from your responsibilities to yourself.
  • We should forgive to release the poison of the corpse of the past that we carry with us. It affects our day and poisons those around us, making us miss the gifts of the present.
  • We set up embassies in other people’s minds and seek to exert our will in their territories. Having an embassy there is a privilege and not a right to exert influence. That path leads to abuse and manipulation.

There is, of course, much more than this within its pages.

I liked the analogies with nation-states and the three branches of government which operate in our minds under the president. This made the book accessible and easier to understand and set it apart from its predecessors. I recommend this book to any seeking more insight into themselves.

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We live in one of three states as Brendon Burchard says - caged, comfortable or charged - often one of the first two. But we aspire to a better life, a more charged life, one where we don’t feel trapped or stuck in a rut (yet comfortable), one where we don’t compromise and live a charged life. My purpose is to help you find your charge. I post updates about my own journey here and if you have any questions or would like any support, feel free to contact me or connect with me on any of the social networks.

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