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Toxic Magnetism: How & Why Empaths Attract Narcissists

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Toxic Magnetism: How & Why Empaths Attract Narcissists Psychology Erik Lynch Audiobook 3h 6m Audible

Are you caught in an exhausting, repeating cycle of bad relationships that always turn out the same, and suspect there must be some root cause driving your attraction to the wrong people, and them to you? Are you naturally giving and constantly find yourself being taken advantage of by chronic takers? Have you ever noticed that you attract the same type of person again and again and wonder why? Would you like to understand the elements that are driving this attraction and fuelling this frustrating, toxic cycle? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, keep reading!

Hoping that a new relationship will turn out different than the last, and then being disappointed by not only the same result but arriving there through the same familiar negative patterns along the way can be discouraging. It can leave you wondering if there is a way out of this cycle. Explore this groundbreaking audiobook that finally uncovers the reasons why empaths and narcissists are so irresistibly drawn to each other, and the ways that, armed with the truth, you and others can finally break the cycle and avoid these relationships in the future so you can finally meet the person you were meant for!

You’ll discover:

The single, harmless-seeming trait that draws in narcissists like moths to a flame
15 must-know warning signs of a toxic relationship
The true reason behind why empaths often feel compelled to “fix” broken partners
The 7 recognizable stages of a toxic relationship (see if you relate!)
How toxic relationships are preventing you from meeting the one you were meant to be with, and the ultimate tool to break free from the cycle for good

And much more…

Even with a track record a mile long of toxic, unhealthy, and even abusive relationships, there is a way to empower yourself to break the cycle. If you are ready to never deal with another dead end, hurtful relationship again, start listening today!


This book grew on me the second time through. While it doesn’t go deep into aspects of empath or narcissism, it does provide an eloquent contrast between the two personality styles and why they attract each other. The frequent checklists to help you identify where you are and how you may be being affected are useful tools to help you gain clarity and regain inner strength to rise once more and move forward. The book takes you through the stages of a narcissist/empath relationship, including the steps you may have to take to get out. There is no magic bullet but, based on other books I have read on this topic, these are excellent guidelines. If you need more information you can always turn to the author’s other books in this series, or any of the resources suggested in the book.

If you are empathic, I recommend this book as a study of different personality spectrums and what is normal and acceptable, and what is definitely not. It may seem a little muddled to some, but it is written to provide a contrast between the two types and why they are drawn together. As an empath, looking at why you attract narcissists is essential as there are always two sides in a relationship. Other books which focus solely on the narcissist, effectively labelling “them” as the problem, don’t always offer sanctuary or speak to you as an empath.

We live in one of three states as Brendon Burchard says - caged, comfortable or charged - often one of the first two. But we aspire to a better life, a more charged life, one where we don’t feel trapped or stuck in a rut (yet comfortable), one where we don’t compromise and live a charged life. My purpose is to help you find your charge. I post updates about my own journey here and if you have any questions or would like any support, feel free to contact me or connect with me on any of the social networks.

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